Extra tips : Learnings from Good Managers v/s Bad Managers


How do you compare the two: learnings you had from poor managers and learnings you had from great managers?

The learning from bad managers remind of the difficult experience we had with them…….good managers with imparting great learning also help build a great relation….but the fact of the matter is that both make you more wise in corporate career and add a great learning value….

Advantages of Bad Manager:

1. Makes you prepare for hard times

2. Gives u an opportunity to learn on your own

3. U fill great when you join another co. or manager changes ;).

4. keeps you motivated for a job hunt

Disadvantages:

1. Difficult to give your 100% in current job.

2. A fear of making mistakes remains.

Advantages of Good Manager:

1. Opportunity to learn from him each day.

2. A motivation to work hard and give your 200%.

2. Makes you feel that you are on right career path.

Not much of a disadvantage otherwise he/she will also fall into bad manager category….

Bad Managers tend to increase the negativity in you – fear of mistakes, half hearted efforts, more lies and absenteeism everything starts becoming a part of life, besides anger , frustration and sometimes depression.

Good managers tend to increase the positivity in you – confidence is boosted, fear reduces leading to a more assertiveness and higher risk appetite, which often leads to success.Besides, there’s is always a hope of doing more and better professionally, which shows up in improved performance.

At times the learning curve, when working with a bad manager can be much steeper than when working with a good manager. Most of the people perhaps know what should be done but knowing what should not be done is critical too.

While good managers teach you the art of planning in advance, doing things right, help develop your confidence and guide you on Technical front as well as interpersonal relationships,

Incompetent Managers teach you to value all these things in a Good Manager.

However i would say both experiences are extremely essential in the growth of an individual in early wrking yrs

Infectious Enthusiasm


I almost forgot about it. One of my friends reminded of it, and so i decided to write something. Enthusiasm is infectious. No matter regarding what – good or bad – if you are enthusiastic about it, you will get people involved. You will infect others.

Enthusiasm is a communicable disease. It has no cure. It has no medicine. It is a sweet poison which will make you feel better when you are sick with it.

But some people will find a way to get away from any kind of disease. And i have seen such people who have a shield around them, which will not let them get infected. They have a shield of NEGATIVE THINKING and ATTITUDE that will not let them think good and be enthusiastic. Enthusiasm can not go thru that shield, and people do not get infected.

That is one of the reasons i forgot about my infectious enthusiasm, because i have a few people around me who are shielded. They are vaccinated. And if i stay around them for long, I will loose my powers of infection. They will become penicilling for me. God does not want that, and so he sent me a doctors advice. Thanks to my friend for being a Hanuman for me and remind me of the powers i have.

My enthusiasm has helped me a lot. In achieving things, in reaching places, in creating success. Even making new friends. I wish i can stay the same, and be more enthusiastic in future. I wish to infect more and more people every day, so that they can go and infect others. After all enthusiasm and energy are the things that make this world moving.

Go ahead, Spread it. Enjoy it. Enthusiasm is the key to success.

courtesy – Ashish Jain — http://indore360.com/portal

I Wanted To Change The World


An Inspirational Short Story with Wisdom
I Wanted To Change The World

By Unknown Monk, 1100 A.D.
When I was a young man, I wanted to change the world.I found it was difficult to change the world, so I tried to change my nation.
When I found I couldn’t change the nation, I began to focus on my town. I couldn’t change the town and as an older man, I tried to change my family.

Now, as an old man, I realize the only thing I can change is myself, and suddenly I realize that if long ago I had changed myself, I could have made an impact on my family. My family and I could have made an impact on our town. Their impact could have changed the nation and I could indeed have changed the world.”

 

 

 

Food For Thought:

“After you’ve done a thing the same way for two years, look it over carefully. After five years, look at it with suspicion. And after ten years, throw it away and start all over. ” Alfred Edward Perlman
“All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another.” Anatole France

“Growth is the only evidence of life.” John Henry Newman

“If nothing ever changed, there’d be no butterflies.” Author Unknown

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” Victor Frankl

 

 

Keep the Spark – Get Inspired


Keep the Spark

Inaugural Speech by Chetan Bhagat for the new batch at the Symbiosis BBA program 2008

Good Morning everyone and thank you for giving me this chance to speak to you. This day is about you. You, who have come to this college, leaving the comfort of your homes (or in some cases discomfort), to become something in your life. I am sure you are excited. There are few days in human life when one is truly elated.  The first day in college is one of them.  When you were getting ready today, you felt a tingling in your stomach. What would the auditorium be like, what would the teachers be like, who are my new classmates – there is so much to be curious about. I call this excitement, the spark within you that makes you feel truly alive today. Today I am going to talk about keeping the spark shining. Or to put it another way, how to be happy most, if not all the time.

 Where do these sparks start? I think we are born with them. My 3-year old twin boys  have a million sparks. A little Spiderman toy can make them jump on the bed. They get thrills from creaky swings in the park. A story from daddy gets them excited. They do a daily countdown for birthday party – several months in advance – just for the day they will cut their own birthday cake.

 I see students like you, and I still see some sparks. But when  I see older people,  the spark is difficult to find. That means as we age, the spark fades. People whose spark has faded too much are dull, dejected, aimless and bitter. Remember Kareena in the first half of Jab We Met vs the second half? That is what happens when the spark is lost.   So how to save the spark?

Imagine the spark to be a lamp’s flame. The first aspect is nurturing – to give your spark the fuel, continuously. The second is to guard against storms.

 To nurture, always have goals. It is human nature to strive, improve and achieve full potential. In fact, that is success. It is what is possible for you. It isn’t any external measure – a certain cost to company pay package, a particular car or house.

Most of us are from middle class families. To us, having material landmarks is success and rightly so. When you have grown up where money constraints force everyday choices, financial freedom is a big achievement.

 But it isn’t the purpose of life. If that was the case, Mr Ambani would not show up for work. Shah Rukh Khan would stay at home and not dance anymore. Steve Jobs won’t be working hard to make a better iPhone, as he sold Pixar for billions of dollars already. Why do they do it? What makes them come to work everyday?

They do it because it makes them happy. They do it because it makes them feel alive. Just getting better from current levels feels good. If you study hard, you can improve your rank. If you make an effort to  interact with people, you will do better in interviews. If you practice, your cricket will get better. You may also know that you cannot become Tendulkar, yet. But you can get to the next level. Striving for that next level is important.

Nature designed  with a random set of genes and circumstances in which we were born. To be happy, we have to accept it and make the most of nature’s design. Are you? Goals will help you do that.

I must add, don’t just have career or academic goals. Set goals to give you a balanced, successful life. I use the word balanced before successful. Balanced means ensuring your health, relationships, mental peace are all in good order.

There is no point of getting a promotion on the day of your breakup. There is no fun in driving a car if your back hurts. Shopping is not enjoyable if your mind is full of tensions. 

 You must have read some quotes –  Life is a  tough race, it is a marathon or whatever. No, from what I have seen so far, life is one of those races in nursery school. Where you have to run with a marble in a spoon kept in your mouth. If the marble falls, there is no point coming first. Same with life, where health and relationships are the marble. Your striving is only worth it if there is harmony in your life. Else, you may achieve the success, but this spark, this feeling of being excited and alive, will start to die.

 One last thing about nurturing the spark – don’t take life seriously. One of my yoga teachers used to make students laugh during classes. One student asked him if these jokes would take away something from the yoga practice. The teacher said  – don’t be serious, be sincere. This quote has defined my work ever since. Whether its my writing, my job, my relationships or any of my goals. I get thousands of opinions on my writing everyday. There is heaps of praise, there is intense criticism. If I take it all seriously, how will I write? Or rather, how will I live? Life is not to be taken seriously, as we are really temporary here. We are like a pre-paid card with limited validity. If we are lucky, we may last another 50 years. And 50 years is just 2,500 weekends. Do we really need to get so worked up? It’s ok, bunk a few classes, goof up a few interviews, fall in love. We are people, not programmed devices.

 I’ve told you three things – reasonable goals, balance and not taking it too seriously that will nurture the spark. However, there are four storms in life that will threaten to completely put out the flame. These must be guarded against. These are disappointment, frustration, unfairness and loneliness of purpose.

 Disappointment will come when your effort does not give you the expected return. If things don’t go as planned or if you face failure. Failure is extremely difficult to handle, but those that do come out stronger. What did this failure teach me? is the question you will need to ask. You will feel miserable. You will want to quit, like I wanted to when nine publishers rejected my first book. Some IITians kill themselves over low grades – how silly is that? But that is how much failure can hurt you.

But it’s life. If challenges could always be overcome, they would cease to be a challenge. And remember – if you are failing at something, that means you are at your limit or potential. And that’s where you want to be.

 Disappointment’s cousin is  frustration, the second storm.  Have you ever been frustrated? It happens when things are stuck. This is especially relevant in India. >From traffic jams to getting that job you deserve, sometimes things take so long that you don’t know if you chose the right goal. After books, I set the goal of writing for Bollywood, as I thought they needed writers. I am called extremely lucky, but it took me five years to get close to  a release.

Frustration saps excitement, and turns your initial energy into something negative, making you a bitter person. How did I deal with it? A realistic assessment of the time involved – movies take a long time to make even though they are watched quickly, seeking a certain enjoyment in the process rather than the end result – at least I was learning how to write scripts  , having a side plan – I had my third book to write and even something as simple as pleasurable distractions in your life  – friends, food, travel can help you overcome it. Remember, nothing is to be taken seriously. Frustration is a sign somewhere, you took it too seriously.

 Unfairness – this is hardest to deal with, but unfortunately that is how our country works. People with connections, rich dads, beautiful faces, pedigree find it easier to make it – not just in Bollywood, but everywhere. And sometimes it is just plain luck. There are so few opportunities in India, so many stars need to be aligned for you to make it happen. Merit and hard work is not always linked to achievement in the short term, but the long term correlation is high, and ultimately things do work out. But realize, there will be some people luckier than you.

In fact, to have an opportunity to go to college and understand this speech in English means you are pretty darn lucky by Indian standards. Let’s be grateful for what we have and get the strength to accept what we don’t. I have so much love from my readers that other writers cannot even imagine it. However, I don’t get literary praise. It’s ok. I don’t look like Aishwarya Rai, but I have two boys who I think are more beautiful than her. It’s ok. Don’t let unfairness kill your spark.

 Finally, the last point that can kill your spark is isolation. As you grow older you will realize you are unique. When you are little, all kids want Ice cream and Spiderman. As you grow older to college, you still are a lot like your friends. But ten years later and you realize you are unique. What you want, what you believe in, what makes you feel, may be different from even the people closest to you. This can create conflict as your goals may not match with others. . And you may drop some of them. Basketball captains in college invariably stop playing basketball by the time they have their second child. They give up something that meant so much to them. They do it for their family. But in doing that, the spark dies. Never, ever make that compromise. Love yourself first, and then others.

 There you go. I’ve told you the four thunderstorms – disappointment, frustration, unfairness and isolation. You cannot avoid them, as like the monsoon they will come into your life at regular intervals. You just need to keep the raincoat handy to not let the spark die.

 I welcome you again to the most wonderful  years of your life. If someone gave me the choice to go back in time, I will surely choose college. But I also hope that ten years later as well, you eyes will shine the same way as they do today. That you will Keep the Spark alive, not only through college, but through the next 2,500 weekends. And I hope not just you, but my whole country will keep that spark alive, as we really need it now more than any moment in history. And there is something cool about saying – I come from the land of a billion sparks.

 Thank You.

Shivmohan – A View on Soft Skills


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A View on Soft Skills – Its relevence on individual success 

Hello Friends, Few days before i conduct a session on how to give feedback and how to receive feedback, though it was part of regular awareness session happen to make teams aware on appraisal process, its objectives and how to follow appraisal system. During Question & Answers session there were very interesting thought raised about how an individual need to have to grow and be successful in organization. Almost everyone is having same skills and expertize but only few of them possibly will move and will move up more in coming time. what is that difference. somehow i felt i should write something on that and here it is , though it looks little theory but i 100% sure if follow it consciously and put some energy in genuiue approach, it works. We make progress by meeting the challenge and conquering our fears. In that way our emotions motivate greater effort, which invites growth and development. Behavioral training experts say there are several soft skills are required in these circumstances. Some of them include:

 

i. Interpersonal skills
ii. Team spirit
iii. Social grace
iv. Business etiquette
v. Negotiation skills
vi. Behavioral traits such as attitude, motivation and time management  

 

In the initial years of your career, your technical abilities are important to get good assignments. However, when it comes to growing in an organization, it is your personality that matters, more so in large organizations where several people with similar technical expertise will compete for a promotion.

 

While organizations are definitely investing in augmenting their staff’s people skills, here are some inputs for professionals and students who would like to initiate the process themselves:

 

i. Be a part of team activities : Observe your own behaviour in the group and how you relate to others.

ii. Ask family members or close friends to write down your best and worst traits. Ideally, have at least four to five people do this for you. Evaluate the common traits all of them have mentioned. Thus, you can be aware of your strengths and work improving your weaknesses.

iii. How well do you manage your time.  Think.  Can you do more in life  Or is your day too crammed with activities  Effective time management is very essential in the corporate world.

iv. Introspect on how you react to feedback.  In organisations, people skills mostly come into the picture when there is feedback given — be it for an idea, an executed project or a presentation. You are judged by the way you respond to feedback.  Do you get defensive?  Do you insist you were right?   Do you meekly accept criticism?   Remember, people tend to be judged and stereotyped according to their responses. You will, too.

v. How good are you at critiquing. While responding to feedback is one side of the coin, giving feedback is the other side. Are you aggressive?  Pessimistic?  Do you believe in constructive criticism?  Or prefer to be the yes-man

vi. Live consciously. Any organisation is manned by people, therefore soft skills are all about how you deal with people and present yourself.

 

plz share your feedback and comments, also plz contribute if you have anything in this topic or in general.

thanks

Shivmohan Purohit